In network marketing and in life we all experience fear (fear of failing, fear of losing, fear of not succeeding). It's what we do with it that allows us to succeed or fail.
This excerpt is taken from the book Do It! Let's Get Off Our Buts by John-Roger & Peter McWilliams.
We all know what fear feels like. It is probably the most common limiting emotion--and, for many people, the most common emotion, period. As Shakespeare pointed out, we are often "distilled almost to jelly with the act of fear."
Not only do we fear new things, we also fell fear in addition to other negative emotions. We fell guil, and we're afraid to feel the guil. We feel pain, and we're afraid to feel the pain. Even when we feel fear, we're often afraid to feel the fear. (That's known as "worrying about your worries," "an anxiety attack," or "the screaming meemies.") Shakespeare, again: "Of all base passions, fear is the most accursed."
Because it's so common, fear has many other names: apprehension, misgiving, trepidation, dread, horror, phobia, terror, alarm, consternation, foreboding, qualm, suspicion, fret, uneasiness, distress, panic, etc., etc.
Someone once discribed FEAR in an acronym: False Expectations Appearing Real. For the most part, what we fear is not real-- it is merely our mind imagining something awful that has not yet happened. ("Fear is pain arising from the anticipation of evil," Aristotle said."
In network marketing, FEAR plays a major role. We all have different fears and most is of the unknown or what I like to term as the "What Ifs." "What if they say no," or "What if I fail," or "What if no one joins my group."
Fear creates stoppage. Fear creates 100% failure if allowed to overtake you. You are guranteed to fail if you don't do anything.
So how do you overcome FEAR?
You must realize that fear can never be eliminated from your life. It will always be your traveling companion so make the most of it. The presence of fear means that you are on the verge of learning/experiencing something new. Let me give you another example of why this important. Have you ever tasted something sweet? Of course you have, but how do you know it's sweet? Well that's because you have also tasted it's opposite--sour. In order for you to have success, you must also have the opportunity to fail. Everything must have an opposite in order to exist. So the presence of fear also means there is the presence of success. So let's look at the questions above again. "What if they say no?" What's the opposite? "What if they say YES!" "What if I fail?" to "What if I Succeed!" and "What if no one joins my group?" to "What if they do join my GROUP!"
Recognize the fear. You can never overcome, what you are refusing to see. That in itself may be enough to move forward.
As the Boy Scouts would say, "Always be prepared." Being prepared will always give you the upper hand.
Fear is always suppressed by ACTION! I learned this early on playing sports. Oh those butterflies before the big game, but once it started, I was fine. As Dr. Schwartz says in his book The Magic of Thinking Big, "Isolate your fear and then take constructive action. Inaction--doing nothing about the situation--strengthens fear and destroys confidence."
Here is a great clip from the movie Gladiator. Watch how being prepared and creating action overcomes fear. Can you see and feel the fear? I love this movie.
Gladiator- Prepardness plus Action cures FEAR
Often fear may be associated with being unclear. Take the time to clarify what it is you are trying to do. If it's a large task, try breaking it down to smaller chunks (remember the eating of the elephant).
Educate yourself. Often fear of the unknown is because you have chosen to not know it. This happens way to much in the MLM world. Just because you don't know it, doesn't mean it's not there. WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW CAN HURT YOU! If you are uncertain about something; that could be causing fear. Here's a great example. A big fear in network marketing is performing certain tasks to create income. Many don't even know what they should be doing to create income and even if they do know what to do, they don't know how much or how long to do it. The fear of failure has just been hightened because you don't even know what you have to do specifically to earn a specific amount of money. One of my favorite questions to ask is, "How many people do you need in your organization to make 10K a month RESIDUAL income?" Most don't know or don't want to know. Take out the thought of potential income and replace it with action income. What do you have to do to get results?
If this is something occuring in your life and you would like to change it then feel free to contact me. I would be more than happy to share with you what I've learned (and learning--it never stops). If you feel like it's time to take control or your destiny then take some action to change it NOW! or don't and let FEAR control you.
Wishing You Success,
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